What this work focuses on
Relationship concerns in individual therapy can involve a partner, parents, adult children, siblings, friends, or colleagues. People often come in with questions like:
- Why do I keep ending up in the same kind of relationship?
- Why do I shut down, or blow up, when there is conflict?
- How do I set a boundary without losing the relationship?
- Should I stay in this relationship?
- How do I stop needing everyone's approval?
Understanding your conflict style
Most people have a default way of handling conflict. Some avoid it and hope it passes; some hold their ground and push; some give in to keep the peace; some trade off and split the difference. Each style works in some situations and causes problems in others.
Therapy helps you notice your pattern, understand where it came from, and practice responses that fit the situation instead of the old habit. That includes the harder skills: saying what you need, listening without defending, and working toward solutions both people can live with.
When couples therapy may fit better
If you and your partner both want to work on the relationship, meeting together can be more effective, because both sides of the pattern are in the room. See couples therapy. Individual work is still useful when a partner is not ready to come, or when you want to get clear on your own part first.
Learn more
Relationships, Couples, Intimacy, and Family Wellness Hub: guides on when should couples consider therapy; individual therapy vs. couples therapy: which setting fits the concern, and related questions.
Trauma Recovery and Emotional Safety Library: guides on what does trauma-informed therapy mean; how trauma can affect trust and relationships, and related questions.
Common questions
My partner won't come to therapy. Can I still work on our relationship?
Yes. Changing your side of a pattern often changes the pattern. Individual therapy can also help you decide what you want next.
Is this only about romantic relationships?
No. Conflict with parents, adult children, siblings, friends, or coworkers is also common in therapy.